Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About Sobriety*: Four Months Sober
*but were too afraid to ask
I asked my followers on Instagram and Twitter what questions they had for me about my sobriety — here is the result:
Dating culture seems to revolve around pubs and bars; how does sobriety change that for you if at all?
I’ve been on exactly two dates since I quit drinking and they were with the same person. The first date was in the evening at a bar that I chose, and the second was a lunch date, again at a pub I chose. They were lovely dates with a lovely person who gave me their number in a moment of “fuck it” confidence. It didn’t work out, but I had a great time and I enjoyed getting to know them and the joyous adrenaline rush that comes with first dates and first kisses with a new person. The key things for me that made this slightly different was that I told them upfront, before our first date, that I don’t drink alcohol, and they didn’t bat an eyelid at that news.
I don’t think I’ve been on enough dates yet to really answer this question, but I think that’s going to be the litmus test for me — telling people before a first date that I don’t drink, and gauging from their response whether they’re someone I want to spend my time with…
